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Cherry Picked Boutique| Fashion photography| kerensa leigh

Have I mentioned how much I love LOVE working with Angie from Cherry Picked Boutique??? The clothes she brings in are so beautiful and unique and flattering and I love them:)
We were fairly disappointed when we arrived to our location as the building we wanted to shoot at was under 4 feet of water:(
So we put on our happy faces and set to work and it all turned out FABULOUS!!!
I can’t wait to see what you bring in next Angie:)

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Marriage on Mondays | Kerensa Leigh

“You may not be Newlyweds…But you can still kiss like you are” ~Darlene Schacht

We are definitely not Newlyweds!!! We have almost 12 years of marriage under our belt, but thinking back to that first year of marriage I’m so glad we aren’t newlyweds. Don’t get me wrong, at the time I didn’t know it was our worst year of marriage! I’m just glad that each year has gotten better:)
When you hear the term Newlywed, what comes to mind?
For me I think of two people who can’t stop looking at each other. Who want to spend all their time together. They probably can’t stop holding hands and thinking of each other.
When Adam and I first started dating we saw each other every single day for almost three months. Even if it was just for 5 minutes. He used to drive all the way to my house just to say goodnight:)That was definitely a newlywed phase and it was amazing:)
Now he travels for work periodically so we don’t always get to say goodnight in person so it’s a lot of fun to think back and remember our first few months together. To dig down deep and get that back every now and then. To kiss each other like we did in the beginning.
If you’re feeling like the newlywed phase was so long ago, I want to encourage you to sit back and remember those butterflies you’d get when you’d catch him looking at you. Those moments when you are sitting beside them and just hoping that just maybe his hand will brush yours…and that first kiss…nothing beats it:)

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xoxo

Marriage on Mondays | kerensa leigh

Happy Monday:)

If you are in search of a “happy marriage” I have one clue for you on this weeks post for Marriage on Mondays…

Forgiveness!!!

It’s one of those things you’re supposed to learn as a young child when your siblings do you wrong. There should be apologies and forgiveness. It’s something we’re working on with our boys. Our eldest is a bit of a tormentor and takes great pleasure in teasing his brothers so there is a lot of tears…a lot of “I’m sorry’s”…followed by a decent amount of “I forgive yous” and I keep thinking that it should get easier for them but it definitely does not! And you know why? Because we are prideful in nature, it’s not easy to admit when you’re wrong and to forgive makes you feel vulnerable so I’m not sure what is harder, asking for forgiveness or giving it??

Within a marriage relationship it is so important to be able to forgive when your spouse has hurt you. Another aspect of forgiveness is the ability to not bring up this hurt again…if the apology is sincere so must your forgiveness be also. To throw these old hurts back at your spouse in a future fight does so much harm. So even if it takes everything in you, I want to encourage you to start to forgive each other. I’m sure you will find that your heart is lighter and your health and stress levels are improved if you can let go hurts and annoyances.

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Marriage on Mondays | Kerensa Leigh

Happy Easter Monday!!!

Today I’m going to be talking about how to think in Marriage…

The quote I’ve chosen is “The goal in Marriage is not think alike, but to think together.” – Robert C. Dodds

There is a famous saying that “opposites attract” which I tend to agree with. While it is great to have a few things in common, it’s also fun to challenge each other to try new things. I think it would get really boring to have someone who just agreed with me all the time. I want to be married to someone who can give me a new outlook on a situation. Get me thinking outside the box.
In looking back over the past decade with Adam, we have a lot in common but also there are things that I definitely have to push my self to do…I never grew up camping for an example…whereas this was a staple for Adam’s youth. So it has been a big obstacle for me to literally get out of my comfort zone to sleep outside in a tent. But it’s something I do (unless I’m pregnant) for my husband. Because it’s very important for him that his boys grow up with these memories and adventures, and they LOVE it!!! So there is a little part of me that has grown more fond of it as I watch them really getting into it.
I think it’s a must to agree on the fundamentals though, which in our relationship are:
– we agree on our Spiritual Beliefs (this one is HUGE for me as it filters down into the rest-it is a much bigger struggle IMO to be married to someone that you don’t agree with on this subject
– how to raise our children. This includes discipline, how we direct them, how we challenge them to be better people and how to contribute to society.
– where and how to spend our money (this is not always an easy one as Adam is the main bread winner and I am the main bill payer, but it is something that we talk about and can “think together” on)
– Another big one is that early on we decided that “divorce” was never going to be on the table for us. We have both seen how marriage can fail, love can end, and insults can fly so for us its not an option to give up on our relationship (this is not a judgement on those that choose divorce as I do not know the struggles everyone faces and I think there are definite reasons to not stay together, this is just a personal choice that we made to one another and God)

So I would love to encourage you to think together instead of alike. Remember you are two individuals within one union. You need to respect your spouse’s opinions and really “hear” where they are coming from as well as respectfully give your opinions:)

xoxo

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Marriage on Mondays | kerensa leigh

I’m bringing it back…Marriage on Mondays was a blog segment where I impart my vast marriage knowledge on you my valuable listeners…(I jest) I have 11.5 years under my belt but this does not make me an expert, I’m merely well versed in what does and doesn’t work within my marriage!

I’ve compiled some simple quotes on marriage and life and I’m excited to make a small post each week based on one of these. I hope you enjoy and I’d love to hear your thoughts:)

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The first one I’ve chosen is by Darlene Schacht. She is an acclaimed Christian author who has so much insight into what makes a healthy marriage and you should definitely check out her website
The quote is “Relationships blossom when Sacrifice takes the place of Selfishness”

I love love love this one! Anyone who says marriage is easy is either a big liar or has never been married! You cannot have a happy, healthy marriage without the ability to think of your partners wishes/desires/needs. If you go into marriage with selfish tendencies you will most likely feel that it’s an uphill battle.

It is a balance to not lose yourself and become a doormat but the beautiful thing is that if you are both thinking of the other and nobody is acting out of selfishness you should see your relationship blossom. Marriage takes great sacrifice and it is a beautiful thing!

There have been several times in our 15 years together where Adam and I have both been selfish and thinking only of what we want and it is in these times where we don’t feel connected and close to one another. But by being able to get outside of ourselves and truely hear what the other wants it was easier to come back to each other and regroup.

I know for us that having a loving God in the center of our relationship has also helped to be our glue to one another. I can’t imagine doing this marriage thing with anyone other than Adam. There will always be ups and downs in every relationship and I wish you the best in yours.

xoxo

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