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Marriage on Mondays | kerensa leigh

Happy Monday:)

If you are in search of a “happy marriage” I have one clue for you on this weeks post for Marriage on Mondays…

Forgiveness!!!

It’s one of those things you’re supposed to learn as a young child when your siblings do you wrong. There should be apologies and forgiveness. It’s something we’re working on with our boys. Our eldest is a bit of a tormentor and takes great pleasure in teasing his brothers so there is a lot of tears…a lot of “I’m sorry’s”…followed by a decent amount of “I forgive yous” and I keep thinking that it should get easier for them but it definitely does not! And you know why? Because we are prideful in nature, it’s not easy to admit when you’re wrong and to forgive makes you feel vulnerable so I’m not sure what is harder, asking for forgiveness or giving it??

Within a marriage relationship it is so important to be able to forgive when your spouse has hurt you. Another aspect of forgiveness is the ability to not bring up this hurt again…if the apology is sincere so must your forgiveness be also. To throw these old hurts back at your spouse in a future fight does so much harm. So even if it takes everything in you, I want to encourage you to start to forgive each other. I’m sure you will find that your heart is lighter and your health and stress levels are improved if you can let go hurts and annoyances.

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Marriage on Mondays | Kerensa Leigh

Happy Easter Monday!!!

Today I’m going to be talking about how to think in Marriage…

The quote I’ve chosen is “The goal in Marriage is not think alike, but to think together.” – Robert C. Dodds

There is a famous saying that “opposites attract” which I tend to agree with. While it is great to have a few things in common, it’s also fun to challenge each other to try new things. I think it would get really boring to have someone who just agreed with me all the time. I want to be married to someone who can give me a new outlook on a situation. Get me thinking outside the box.
In looking back over the past decade with Adam, we have a lot in common but also there are things that I definitely have to push my self to do…I never grew up camping for an example…whereas this was a staple for Adam’s youth. So it has been a big obstacle for me to literally get out of my comfort zone to sleep outside in a tent. But it’s something I do (unless I’m pregnant) for my husband. Because it’s very important for him that his boys grow up with these memories and adventures, and they LOVE it!!! So there is a little part of me that has grown more fond of it as I watch them really getting into it.
I think it’s a must to agree on the fundamentals though, which in our relationship are:
– we agree on our Spiritual Beliefs (this one is HUGE for me as it filters down into the rest-it is a much bigger struggle IMO to be married to someone that you don’t agree with on this subject
– how to raise our children. This includes discipline, how we direct them, how we challenge them to be better people and how to contribute to society.
– where and how to spend our money (this is not always an easy one as Adam is the main bread winner and I am the main bill payer, but it is something that we talk about and can “think together” on)
– Another big one is that early on we decided that “divorce” was never going to be on the table for us. We have both seen how marriage can fail, love can end, and insults can fly so for us its not an option to give up on our relationship (this is not a judgement on those that choose divorce as I do not know the struggles everyone faces and I think there are definite reasons to not stay together, this is just a personal choice that we made to one another and God)

So I would love to encourage you to think together instead of alike. Remember you are two individuals within one union. You need to respect your spouse’s opinions and really “hear” where they are coming from as well as respectfully give your opinions:)

xoxo

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Marriage on Mondays | kerensa leigh

I’m bringing it back…Marriage on Mondays was a blog segment where I impart my vast marriage knowledge on you my valuable listeners…(I jest) I have 11.5 years under my belt but this does not make me an expert, I’m merely well versed in what does and doesn’t work within my marriage!

I’ve compiled some simple quotes on marriage and life and I’m excited to make a small post each week based on one of these. I hope you enjoy and I’d love to hear your thoughts:)

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The first one I’ve chosen is by Darlene Schacht. She is an acclaimed Christian author who has so much insight into what makes a healthy marriage and you should definitely check out her website
The quote is “Relationships blossom when Sacrifice takes the place of Selfishness”

I love love love this one! Anyone who says marriage is easy is either a big liar or has never been married! You cannot have a happy, healthy marriage without the ability to think of your partners wishes/desires/needs. If you go into marriage with selfish tendencies you will most likely feel that it’s an uphill battle.

It is a balance to not lose yourself and become a doormat but the beautiful thing is that if you are both thinking of the other and nobody is acting out of selfishness you should see your relationship blossom. Marriage takes great sacrifice and it is a beautiful thing!

There have been several times in our 15 years together where Adam and I have both been selfish and thinking only of what we want and it is in these times where we don’t feel connected and close to one another. But by being able to get outside of ourselves and truely hear what the other wants it was easier to come back to each other and regroup.

I know for us that having a loving God in the center of our relationship has also helped to be our glue to one another. I can’t imagine doing this marriage thing with anyone other than Adam. There will always be ups and downs in every relationship and I wish you the best in yours.

xoxo

Full of Flight Life Coach | kerensa leigh

I had the pleasure of meeting Elizabeth from Full Flight Life Coach. We strolled around White Rock on a beautiful day in March.

We did a bit of a Q&A on what you can expect when you hire her:)You can read that further down…but first let’s meet Elizabeth;)

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Q: What is your business?
A: My name is Elizabeth Turner. I am a Women’s Empowerment Coach and Full Flight Life Coaching is my business.

Q: What do you do in your coaching?
A: In my work I assist overwhelmed Mom’s to create their best lives.

Q: What are your qualifications?
A: I have a Masters Degree in Counselling Psychology (Vocational Rehabilitation) from UBC, I have worked as a vocational counsellor for more than 20 years and have completed Dr. Martha Beck’s intensive coaching program (certification pending). (Dr. Beck is the resident Life Coach/ monthly contributor in Oprah’s magazine O).

Q: How exactly do you create your ‘best life’?
A: Coaching is really about removing what isn’t working and magnifying what is. Women today are overwhelmed by so many competing demands-children, work, relationships, heath, finances etc. The last thing they need is more stuff to do. Through the use of various coaching techniques I help them to access their ‘inner GPS’, cut through the chaos of overwhelm and get more peace and clarity.

Q: Who should use your services?
A: Overwhelmed Moms who want more joy, peace and freedom and less daily grind!

Q: What does the coaching cost?
A: I have an 8 session program for women called Overwhelmed to Optimal. The cost of this investment is $775. If people prefer to see my by the hour my rate is $100.00 per one hour coaching session (this includes lots of fun soul homework!).

Q: How do you get started?
A: If you are interested in finding out more contact me through my website www.fullflightlifecoaching.com or at elizjturner@gmail.com and we can set up a free 30 minute strategy session to see if coaching is right for you.

Thank You!

Cherry Picked Boutique | Kerensa Leigh Photography

I had the pleasure of joining forces with my friend Angie of Cherry Picked Boutique for her spring line!
If you haven’t heard of this boutique, you must head on over to her site and keep your eyes open for one of her open houses! Make sure to follow her on Facebook to get updates on new arrivals, on chances to win some of her amazing pieces as well as an opportunity to be the buyer and tell her what you’d love to see her bring in!
Don’t forget to ask her how you can host a party at her house to try on beautiful pieces with a few of your close friends and the hostess gets free items:)How awesome is that???

Shelby (our gorgeous model) had a great attitude and didn’t let the cold air bother her in the least!! The sun may have been shining but it most definitely was not a hot day!

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How great is the detail on the back of this blouse?

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The light in this horse barn was fab-u-lous!!! I could seriously shoot here all day long:)

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I am a sucker for a great door…and these did not disappoint
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looking for that perfect hat? Look no further, with one of these you are sure to turn heads!
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She’s got these cute booties in black and brown…can’t decide, get BOTH!!
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